Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Opening that can...

I have so much I want to share...decor, projects, ideas, etc. I feel like I first have to take care of some "housekeeping" if you will. This picture has absolutely nothing at all to do with the post, by the way...

I think anytime you open up and put yourself out there, you run the risk of someone taking it the wrong way. Its so hard to come across in the very sincere way you mean to, when you can only read, and not hear the voice. I just checked my dashboard yesterday and found a comment that needed moderating. It was for this post.

Before I get into it, let me just say that I have what I call a "park friend". I met this lady at a Girl Scout sign up, and we found out we both have Fishers. Well, her's is spelled Fischer. We then saw her at the park one Friday afternoon shortly thereafter. So now, we meet up with them at the park. We celebrated Halloween with them, eating dinner, then trick or treating. Want to know the funny thing?? She and her husband both drive Mercedes!! I promise I am not really going there, again. I thought this was all so funny, since God revealed to me, that this lady, who was so down to earth, friendly, not at all snobby, and shopped at Wal-Mart, was possibly in my life for the very purpose of me not judging people based on what they have, versus what I don't have. I think that may have made sense...???

Okay...onto the comment. I felt the need to share it and clarify myself. Because...what if it was a new friend that read that post and wrote this comment?? A post that I did not mean to come across in any ugly way, at all.

Aren't you insecurities about your "cheap" car the same thing? People buy what they like and what they campn sorta afford. If someone is high-income, a "nice" car might be relatively affordable to them. Maybe no other dealer would finance them. Maybe thet're working 100 hours a week to buy that car, that house, that lifestyle. Maybe they ear ramen all week but really enjoy a nice car-- that's their one luxury. Sure, some people buy thongs for show. Others have worked their whole lives to buy their dream "toys." others may have ingerited those things, or be upside down on the payments but couldn't find a buyer. You're judging them on wealth because you perceice they're judging you on poverty. But, you don't know wjat those people have been through or stand for... nor do they know what you've been through or stand for. It's not that someone makes the car. That's silly because it over emphasizes possessions. You have your needs more than met- that's whatnmatters. You have a caring family and food and shelter- that's what matters. The car or house are not what you make- they're what you've been given. Some have more, some less... but being prideful in things is futile, "making" your car is futile. You are valued as a human, not because of what they or you have.


So...I do agree with what some of "anonymous" wrote. The parts I could understand, what with the typos and whatnot. I know that my problems were totally mine and not anything anyone said to me or about me. That is just something I have to pray about and work through. I sincerely hope I haven't offended anyone, as it was not my intention. There it is...

2 comments:

Jenn @ Spejory said...

I just hate it when people buy thongs for show ; )

Jen~ Lipstick and Laundry said...

Ms. Elise... I don't think anything you said in your post was negative. You are a loving person no matter what kind of car someone drives, where someone lives, etc... I love you and ALL your posts!